hardest decision of my life
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| Wiegieboard |  | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 12:54 |
 as crimson as my last victims underclothing..... Member 899, 11329 posts SQ 180, BP 132.5, DL 190502.5 kgs @ 118kgs UnEq | I've been in the same position myself. I moved for a while but it ended up we went our separate ways in the end. I know others who have moved and become citizens. Very tough decision and I hope you find your answer. | ||
| slimsim | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 12:55 |
My asshole is not watertight. Member 2926, 6050 posts SQ 217.5, BP 107.5, DL 225550.0 kgs @ 86kgs UnEq | Villa_Ste said: This is what my girlfriend says is prob the best idea for me. Now this may be the cynic in me and hopefully I'm way off the mark but that hardly makes it sound like she's trying her best to talk you into going with her. Also, if she loves you as much as you say you love her then why does being in the uk make her so unhappy? Surely being with the one you love makes you happy no matter where you are? I think fazc has hit the nail on the head mate. | ||
| slimsim | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 12:55 |
My asshole is not watertight. Member 2926, 6050 posts SQ 217.5, BP 107.5, DL 225550.0 kgs @ 86kgs UnEq | Post Edited: 17.03.2013 @ 12:55 PM by slimsim Dp | ||
| chaos | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:02 |
 An amazing human being Member 2047, 17156 posts SQ 262.5, BP 170, DL 300732.5 kgs @ 108kgs UnEq | Just f**king go!!!! I've literally started my new life today in the sun! It was s**t saying goodbye to everyone and it wil be a few months before wife and kids can come out so that not brill but it will work out in end! With Skype, whatsapp and viber its feckin piss easy to stay in contact with everyone including your parents - get them an ipad its so easy to use. SOrted my parents and mrs parents out with skype before i left and its only a couple of flights away! At the end of the day though its gonna be down to what you really want, as mean as it sounds your parents would want the best for you and if that means mpving away gthen so be it! I can't say what NZ is like cos I've never been but everybody i know who have been absolutely love it! | ||
| shanejer | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:12 |
Member 1307, 14110 posts SQ 355, BP 240, DL 370965.0 kgs @ 102kgs UnEq | I'd go The biggest danger in a mans life is not takin the risk . | ||
| bigwmd | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:22 |
Member 1695, 126 posts SQ 180, BP 162.5, DL 240582.5 kgs @ 94kgs UnEq | This may sound harsh (im a squaddie so im used to being away from the family), but your parents will die eventually. Once your parents are gone, will you then regret not moving away and making a life for yourself? Your family will always love you and will be there for you if things dont work out in NZ. If your girlfriend is 'the one', then surely its worth taking the risk and creating a better life for yourselves. With todays technology, the world really is a much smaller place. | ||
| MrSmall | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:28 |
Gone and easily forgotten....... Member 331, 22298 posts SQ 185, BP 100, DL 230515.0 kgs @ 85kgs UnEq | Villa_Ste said: This is what my girlfriend says is prob the best idea for me. errrrr | ||
| OwenL | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:33 |
 has a tiny penis Member 2897, 5018 posts SQ 220, BP 140, DL 270630.0 kgs @ 82.2kgs UnEq | MrSmall said: Villa_Ste said: This is what my girlfriend says is prob the best idea for me. errrrr lol I'd go, im thinking of going on my own. If i hate it then im s**t out, but i might love it and like Shane says, take the risk n it might pay off. my parents dont know yet though  im sure you could get a job over there, start looking now! | ||
| wjmxm21 | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 13:33 |
 improvment is a MUST !! Member 1407, 1629 posts SQ 215, BP 187.5, DL 270672.5 kgs @ 105kgs UnEq | slimsim said: Now this may be the cynic in me and hopefully I'm way off the mark but that hardly makes it sound like she's trying her best to talk you into going with her. Also, if she loves you as much as you say you love her then why does being in the uk make her so unhappy? Surely being with the one you love makes you happy no matter where you are? Agree with this. But if you must go any chance your family could go with you in time, or are they set on staying here? In theory though if she loved you enough, she shouldn't make you choose between your family and her. I'd go personally, but with the option of coming back should it go wrong. | ||
| Villa_Ste | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 14:27 |
stingy with his letters Member 496, 668 posts SQ 210, BP 190, DL 230630.0 kgs @ 111kgs UnEq | slimsim said: Now this may be the cynic in me and hopefully I'm way off the mark but that hardly makes it sound like she's trying her best to talk you into going with her. Also, if she loves you as much as you say you love her then why does being in the uk make her so unhappy? Surely being with the one you love makes you happy no matter where you are? I think fazc has hit the nail on the head mate. I know how that must sound but she said to me that id not spoken to any mates about it, but the only mate id take any advice off is on hol in australia at moment. so she simply said if it was 1 of her mates asking her thats what she'd say. My parents said i should do what ever makes me happy, i know they'd understand but id miss my family. | ||
| Villa_Ste | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 14:29 |
stingy with his letters Member 496, 668 posts SQ 210, BP 190, DL 230630.0 kgs @ 111kgs UnEq | bigwmd said:This may sound harsh (im a squaddie so im used to being away from the family), but your parents will die eventually. Once your parents are gone, will you then regret not moving away and making a life for yourself? Your family will always love you and will be there for you if things dont work out in NZ. If your girlfriend is 'the one', then surely its worth taking the risk and creating a better life for yourselves. With todays technology, the world really is a much smaller place. Not a very nice thought but it is a good point, hence why im finding this so hard | ||
| drew | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 14:29 |
 I thought Joplin choked on a sandwich? Member 616, 8404 posts SQ 180, BP 130, DL 220530.0 kgs @ 78.8kgs UnEq | Villa_Ste said: I know how that must sound but she said to me that id not spoken to any mates about it, but the only mate id take any advice off is on hol in australia at moment. so she simply said if it was 1 of her mates asking her thats what she'd say. My parents said i should do what ever makes me happy, i know they'd understand but id miss my family. Sounds to me like really you want to stay. Do what boar says, if you miss her dearly and want to move you can later | ||
| Villa_Ste | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 15:13 |
stingy with his letters Member 496, 668 posts SQ 210, BP 190, DL 230630.0 kgs @ 111kgs UnEq | drew said: Sounds to me like really you want to stay. Do what boar says, if you miss her dearly and want to move you can later Thats what i'll prob end up doing. i do really wanna stay, but only as much as i dont wanna lose her | ||
| herman | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 15:13 |
 hermit Member 3904, 988 posts | How independent are your parents? If have old/unwell parents and I really regret not taking the opportunity to travel when I wa younger. Now they have just become a lot older and iller, needing more help. Meaning I am pretty locked down. Nearly 70 without major health problems is not too bad in my opinion. You could use it as an opportunity to live somewhere else for a few years. (Going there forever is another matter!) Are YOU going to enjoy new zealand? That is the main question I think. I wouldn't do it for her, especially if she is just going to go without you. Do it if its a good thing for you, you can come back in a couple years if you dont like it. | ||
| Harry | | ... | 17-03-2013 @ 17:17 |
I have sex with women Member 2122, 310 posts SQ 180, BP 135, DL 220535.0 kgs @ 98kgs UnEq | I wouldn't leave. You have a good job, friends and parents back in England. If you really fell in love with NZ then you would already be there living it up. But you're not and a GF of two years isn't going to make it suddenly better. If it was 5 or more years then you could consider it as a major factor but two years? Plenty of other women and I doubt she'd be able to stay in NZ whilst you're in England without goin crazy. | ||